When you separate and get a divorce, it can often feel like you want to cut ties completely. Having a child together takes that option away. Co-parenting becomes your new reality, and that new reality can be complicated. Take these 10 helpful tips for co-parenting to guide you through the novel territory.
Communicate
While it may be a habit to schedule things as you would any other time, informing the other parent of any more significant time commitments, such as trips, is a good idea. You can avoid conflict by showing a little consideration (which will encourage reciprocation). The other parent may schedule outings that would be helpful if shared with you, too.
Plan
When making arrangements and scheduling events or activities, it is best not to wait until the last minute. Allowing the other parent to contribute thoughts and work with you on plans will be helpful. Not everything can be planned ahead, but as much as possible will smooth out many co-parenting issues and account for being fair and sharing time well.
Compromise
Co-parenting often involves learning when to let some things go and when things are important enough to ask the other party to let go. Being flexible means you can accommodate each others’ unexpected needs. Put yourself in their shoes in certain situations.
Cooperate
A habit you don’t want to get into is trying to buy your children’s love after a divorce. It’s not a competition, so finding some common ground may be necessary. For some things, like birthdays or holidays, you could even cooperate and coordinate on a gift.
Prioritize
Despite the marriage not working out, your kids are still the most important factor. Prioritize their feelings, wishes, and best interests when considering schedules and plans. The children deserve to know both sides of their families, and both parents deserve an active role in their children’s lives.
Understand
Brace yourself. Things will be different now. Holidays may look a little different than you originally expected. Try to be more flexible and understanding as you navigate co-parenting with the other parent so you both can acclimate to the changes from the idea you had in your head at one time.
Prepare
Not only are you going through adjustments, but so are your kids. Help them with the changes by informing them of schedules and what’s happening so they aren’t surprised at the last minute. Communicate with them to ease the transition instead of feeling thrown into the mix.
Receive
Allow yourself to try new experiences. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, take the time your kids are at the other parent’s house to learn a new skill, pick up a hobby, or try something else. It can pass the time while the kids are away and give you a new focus away from co-parenting.
Positive
Silver linings and seeing the positive in situations can make co-parenting a little easier. Taking focus away from the negative creates a better environment for you to find a new sense of happiness from what brings you gratitude and joy. Take moments to prioritize your mental and physical health during the stressful times.
Assistance
Even if the co-parenting seems to be going well, circumstances may cause conflict. Finding a family attorney or mediator could be a good option for resolving any issues you cannot agree on otherwise. If necessary, the family attorney or mediator can take matters to the court so a judge can decide. Let those avenues be better than escalating a situation for all involved.
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