Co-parenting is difficult for people in even the best situation. More often than not, people find themselves in the middle of a less-than-ideal co-parenting situation. It can be extremely frustrating when dealing with an unreasonable or vindictive co-parent. Here are a few suggestions to help you learn to deal with an uncooperative co-parent.
- Come to terms with the fact that you can only control your own behavior.
It’s easy to get frustrated or angry and let your emotions control you, but avoid being aggressive or combative whenever possible. Engaging in a high emotional confrontation will not likely improve the immediate situation and could damage your custody case. Avoid belittling or bad-mouthing the other parent in front of your children. It’s important to control your words and actions. - Do not use your children as pawns.
Your children should not be the middleman when communicating with a co-parent. As parents, it is your responsibility to devise an effective communication method. Also, remember that withholding visitation or access to your children may be an easy way to get back at a bad co-parent. It may also violate a court order and have serious consequences. It can also be emotionally damaging to your children. - Minimize direct contact.
The best way to avoid confrontation is to avoid putting yourself in a situation where a confrontation is likely to occur. Stay in the car when dropping off/picking up your child. Focus on your child and only engage in the minimal conversation when you must. - Keep a record.
Document each incident when it occurs and avoid involving your children. Keep a log of tardies and absences or any arguments or disagreements. Report any suspected abuse immediately to law enforcement. - Contact a mediator.
If you find you and your co-parent can simply not seem to get along, you may consider utilizing a third party to mediate your interactions and communications. This party could be a friend or relative, or you can request a professional mediator. - Contact your attorney.
The terms and conditions of your custody agreement may need to be amended, or perhaps your co-parent may just need a stern reminder of what those terms are and the consequences of not following them. Your attorney will be able to advise you about what next steps you need to take and ensure the best outcome for your children.
If you need help with a custody agreement or navigating your co-parenting terms, the lawyers at Hoover Kacyon, LLC., are dedicated to supporting our clients. We deliver the highest quality legal representation from a team of professionals while also providing excellent customer service. Call us at 330-922-4491 or contact us online to make an appointment.
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